strength

i find strength for myself in this song..
Hope it does the same for you..
enjoy..

Avril lavigne - Who knows

Yeah, yeah
Yeah-eah, yeah
Yeah-eah, yeah
Why do look so familiar
I could swear that I have seen your face before
I think I like that you seem sincere
I think I like to get to know you a little bit more

I think there's something more, life's worth living for
Who knows what could happen.
Do what you do, just keep on laughing
One thing's true, there's always a brand new day
I'm gonna live today like it's my last day

Yeah, yeah, Yeah-eah, yeah, Yeah-eah, yeah

How do you always have an opinion
And how do you always find the best way to compromise
We don't need to have a reason
We don't need anything
We're just wasting time

I think there's something more, life's worth living for
Who knows what could happen.
Do what you do, just keep on laughing
One thing's true, there's always a brand new day
Who knows what could happen.
Do what you do, just keep on laughing
One thing's true, there's always a brand new day
I'm gonna live today like it's my last day

Find yourself, cause I can't find you
Be yourself, who are you?
Find yourself, cause I can't find you
Be yourself, who are you?

Who knows what could happen.
Do what you do, just keep on laughing
One thing's true, there's always a brand new day

So you go and make it happen
Do your best just keep on laughing
It's all on you, there's always a brand new day

Who knows what could happen.
Do what you do, just keep on laughing
One thing's true, there's always a brand new day
I'm gonna live today like it's my last day

Keep Trying

Anger, hatred, bitterness, resentments and thoughts of revenge are heavy weights that slow a person down. Allowed to fester, these negative feelings can consume increasingly larger portions of your life. Liberate yourself. Let it go. The forgiving person is always stronger. Be like the rock in the stream and let the thoughts of revenge flow by you. As a person of action, improving yourself and helping others, you will make lots of mistakes. You will do foolish things. Learn the lesson. You practice forgiveness for yourself. Consider those whom you may have offended or injured and ask for their forgiveness. Can you say, "I'm sorry and I apologize if I offended you."? If you ask and your request is rejected, you have lightened your burden in trying. Continue to encourage efforts at reconciliation.

Remember :If you fall down today, you have tomorrow. If you fall down tomorrow, you still have the day after tomorrow. Just keep trying.Persevere ON and don't think "i can do it another day". Never Drag! Do not be ruled by yesterday either. If you are apologetic make changes IF u hav to (or else juz be urself). Den again change is often easy. The hard part is to maintain that change for the long term. If you keep trying and do what you really meant, your efforts will not go to waste (at least i believe).

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THE PRESENT MOMENT
Let's start out with how to be happy in the present moment.
I'm going to give you an assignment, which I really encourage you to do. The results will be fun and surprising.
Make a list of 25 things you think you need in order to be totally happy. Don't censor yourself, just write freely without worrying about how your list looks.
Here are some things people often put on their lists at my seminars.
One million dollars
One billion dollars
A six-month cruise around the world
To be President of the United States
A Porsche
The perfect marriage
To be famous
To have my own TV show
Healthy children
Parents that get along
A mansion
My own private jet

You've got to admit, this is some basket of goodies. But will their acquisition make you happy?
That depends on what happiness means to you. I think this is a good time to define our subject: Happiness means taking pleasure in what you have.
You're certainly not going to be happy about the things you don't have. Happiness is when you walk outside on a beautiful summer day, look around and suddenly feel a rush of pleasure. Or when you come home from work and your child runs to greet you at the door.
When you sit down to a great meal at a fancy restaurant you definitely feel good. That's because you're happy -- you're enjoying what you have.

HAVE AND HAVE NOT
Yet look at the things that appear on people's lists. One fact is clear: if they want to be happy, they are going about it the wrong way. They are focusing on what they don't have. If most of their attention is directed toward what they don't have, are they going to be happy? Of course not. I'm certainly not saying that they shouldn't strive for all those things. But they also should take pleasure in what's in their own backyard.
Strive for all you want, also take pleasure in what's in your backyard already.
Look at your own list. How many of the things on it do you presently have? If only a few of them or even none, then you're saying, "My happiness depends on getting X, Y and Z." I certainly hope you get them. But what about being happy in the meantime?
Want I want you to see is that you already have many wonderful blessings. It's enriching and productive to notice them.
Therefore, I want you to make another list. This time, write down 25 of the greatest blessings you currently have in your life.
These are some of the things people commonly put on their lists:
I have hands
I have feet
I have eyes
I have ears
My parents are alive
One of my parents is alive
I am alive
I have children
I have a good friend
I own my house
I love my wife or husband
My wife or husband loves me
I learn something new every day
I know how to read and write
I live in America, Canada, etc.
I am relatively sane

Now you have two lists:
List A: The things you think you need in order to be happy. List B: The blessings you already have.
Now I want to show you something remarkable. Which of your two lists do you think has better things on it? For example, let's say in List A you put one million dollars (or one billion if you're really ambitious). And let's say you put "eyes" on List B.
Which would you rather have -- eyes or one million dollars? Or even a billion dollars? Would you give up your legs for all that money?
What's the price tag on life itself?
Without exception, I have shown people that the list of what they have is much greater than the list of what they think they need in order to be happy. So if people already have a list of incredible blessings and are grumpy and dissatisfied, why should they believe that they would be happy if they had more things?
You might be surprised to hear that I've even had people with terrible problems acknowledge the pricelessness of their blessings.
The only ones who were reluctant to acknowledge how many wonderful things they had in their lives were people close to suicide. Being suicidal, by the way, comes from obsessive focus on what is lacking in one's life.
What can you learn from all this? It's wonderful to want new things, but you also have to take pleasure in the present moment. If your formula is "If I only had X, I'll be happy -- you'll never be happy. When you get X, you'll focus on not having Y. There's nothing wrong with wanting X and Y, but how about enjoying what you have in the meantime?

BOOT CAMP FOR HAPPINESS
I remember the first time I ever taught a class on happiness. At one point, I asked the students to make a list of some of the pleasures they'd had during the day. "Pick things about which you really felt strongly," I said.
Guess what was on the list? Things like "awareness of God" and "helping an old lady cross the street."
"Come on everybody," I said."Those are things you think you're supposed to say. I want something you really felt." One girl in the back of the class shyly raised her hand."Does this count?" She asked."I had a really great cup of coffee this morning."
"How did you feel when you drank it?"
"Terrific," she said.
"I sat in the sun and felt really good just before class," someone else said.
"I got a call from my sister a few hours ago," said a third.
Those were really good examples.
When I ask for people to remember a moment of happiness, they think I am looking for something extraordinary or saintly. They pick giant things they think they should feel, but probably don't. And not too many giant things happen to us during the day. Life is composed of thousands and thousands of small moments.
Happiness is the natural state of a human being -- just watch a baby for a few minutes.
The truth of the matter is that happiness is the natural state of a human being. Watch a baby for a few minutes. They don't seem to have too much trouble being happy.
To make the point, I bring ice cream into seminars. Everyone's mood suddenly perks up and they're all smiles. The ice cream does the trick -- it got them to forget their worries and focus on the goodness of life. Being happy should be a pleasure felt in the gut, not some abstract concept that stays in the mind.
Spend three days looking for your moments of happiness. Every time you feel a true shot of pleasure, notice it. You'll see that sometimes they are few and far between - not because there aren't many chances to feel them, but because you're worrying or focusing on what isn't going right.
Each moment can be filled with pleasure. If you were suddenly able to see or hear for the first time, you'd be filled with joy for at least a whole day.
Looking at a flower, seeing a friend walking toward you, enjoying something you're eating -- all of these are moments of happiness.
People often ask me whether they should write down their happy moments and look at the list every day. The truth is, we don't have to hang onto the old ones. Every second is bringing new ones. Why look at a list of what happened yesterday?
Happiness is an attitude of noticing the good constantly coming our way.
There's so much good coming every minute, there's no need to hand onto the past. We don't need to grasp onto a rope to prevent ourselves from drowning when we are standing on dry land.
The trick of it is to get into the habit of looking for good things, instead of griping all day about what's going wrong. I refer to this as a kind of boot camp. In boot camp, the army teaches a soldier how to instinctively do things he's never done before in his life, like marching or loading a weapon. We need to work at getting the same habits in happiness. We're often so consistently programmed to look for the bad or take our blessings for granted, that we become oblivious to all the interesting, pleasurable and good things around us.


ME: omg..i found this on a web which i find it a good way to change my habits of lookin things negatively..i hope this would help everyone to look at their life n tink about it..doesn't it show tt it is NOT DIFFICULT to be HAPPY? smile gals n boys..smile..be thankful n be happi wif wat u already hav..if there is sth you hav more..tt's a BONUS! =)